Do you like to be alone? Do you fear it? I've never feared being alone. Matter of fact I've always enjoyed my alone time and still do, but things are different. In the past I always knew someone would be returning, my alone time was temporary. But now it's just me. This is going to take some getting use to! I've got to learn to do things by myself and be ok with that.

I have great friends, but they are uncomfortable with my 'aloneness.' I'm always being asked if I'm going out with someone or would I like to go out with someone. I think this is because they, the friends, aren't comfortable with me being alone. I love them for it!

It's ok to be alone. We, women, do not have to have a man in our life to be fulfilled. Now, this doesn't mean I don't want a man, sometimes, but I am responsible for my fulfillment.

I am re-learning things about myself that I'd forgotten. I am also trying new things, slowly, but nevertheless, trying! I am going places, in public, by myself. It's "very in-ter-esting!"

Last night I said I was going to be true to myself and confront someone about lying. Well, I did it today and it wasn't as liberating as I thought it would be. Getting things "off my chest" was/is a relief and having the truth finally admitted was like having a ton of bricks lifted off my shoulders. However, knowing that I caused someone pain (no matter that everyone swears to me it was deserved) is not a good feeling. I guess I'm not as tough as I like to think I am or portray to others!!

I still believe I, we, have to be honest and truthful, but it's hard stuff!! The fact that I have been honest with myself and those I've talked to about the situation is a huge step for me. The fact that I have admitted out loud that the whole situation has made me a little sick instead of joyful, revenge is not sweet, leads me to feel somewhat better.

I still say be honest. Be true to yourself. If we don't take care of ourselves, we will be taken advantage of. We are our only advocate. However, if you're not used to doing these things, be prepared for the awkward feelings you may experience!!

I've been away for the week visiting family. It was good, but hectic and bittersweet. I came home to a mess, but maybe I made more of it than necessary. What I've decided is I have to be true to myself. I have to do what's best for me, but not at the expense of others, especially those I love. I have to say what I feel, but in an honest and tactful way.

I have information about a situation that involves me directly and a couple of people I love dearly. I want to tell these people the truth, but I've decided that it's not my place to tell them the whole truth, but I'm also not going to hold back when they finally do hear it and question me about it.

I'm going to the source of the information and telling that person to come clean. I'm telling that person I'm not covering for them any longer. By doing this I'm "killing two birds with one stone." I'm letting the source of the information know I know the truth and I'm not covering for them any longer. If the conversation comes up, this person will know I'm not going to hold back. In doing this, my goal is to get the source to take responsibility for the situation they created.

I am going to be honest, just like I stated in an earlier blog. I am not going to lie. I feel like crap when I do, even when it concerns something trivial.

Be true to yourself! Do what's best for you because you have to live with yourself.

I've always been a forgiver... Not anymore

Why do people lie? Why do people, specifically those who profess to love us, lie to us? I'm not talking about "little white lies," but it's dumb to lie about "little things" anyway.

When confronted head-on with a specific question, some people will lie to your face and justify it by saying it's because they did not want to hurt you. What the liar doesn't think about is how it feels when you ultimately find out the truth (and we know the truth ALWAYS comes out). The hurt and betrayal felt at that point, in my mind and heart, is worse than if I'd been told the truth in the beginning. When the lie is exposed then I have to deal with the truth of the original lie and the fact that someone (who professed to love me) didn't think enough of me to tell me the truth in the first place.

I. HATE. LIARS.

You lie to me, I'm through with you. It's very empowering to me to say that and mean it! I know I have to forgive the lie, but I do not have to forget and continue to allow the liar to be a part of my life.

Yes, I'm angry today.

Lately it seems like I'm constantly questioning myself. I've always been a fairly confident person, but my life has drastically changed in the last year. Things I thought were a "sure thing" are no longer anything, much less a sure thing! I've tried to figure out what happened and how to go on, but, well, that's where the questioning comes in.

In the beginning I felt, weak, for lack of a better word. But now I've decided that it's ok to be confused, to question what's happened or happening. Just because I don't understand something having to do with me doesn't mean I'm weak. It means I'm human, normal; I don't have control of everything, especially other people's actions and feelings. Now, I have to remind myself of this almost everyday, but, that's ok, I needed an mantra!

I am learning to trust myself. I am learning to be ok if I do not understand everything. Change is part of life and I will embrace it... even if it kills me!

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