I still believe I, we, have to be honest and truthful, but it's hard stuff!! The fact that I have been honest with myself and those I've talked to about the situation is a huge step for me. The fact that I have admitted out loud that the whole situation has made me a little sick instead of joyful, revenge is not sweet, leads me to feel somewhat better.
I still say be honest. Be true to yourself. If we don't take care of ourselves, we will be taken advantage of. We are our only advocate. However, if you're not used to doing these things, be prepared for the awkward feelings you may experience!!